The God Who Abandons: Why Mormonism Makes No Sense

Posted: November 26, 2017 in Michael Flournoy, Mormon Studies, Theology

by Michael Flournoy
When I was a child, I frequently fought with my younger brother. I’m not talking about play battles, I mean we were trying to destroy each other. My parents had tried to make us stop, to no avail. One night, amid World War 3, my mother made a startling announcement: she and our father had decided they were going to leave us and never come back. My siblings and I shrieked and wailed as they stalked out the door. Within seconds, the feeling of dread was overwhelming. As the oldest, the burden of feeding and educating the others probably fell on me, and it was a burden I had no hope of carrying.

I threw open the sliding glass door and plunged into the unforgiving night. On the back patio, I screamed their names, fairly certain they could not hear me and that I’d never hear their voices again. When I went back in, my parents were there, consoling my brothers and sister, saying they would never leave us.

Looking back, I do not fault my parents for what happened that night. Parenting is a tough thing to do. It doesn’t come with a manual, and half the time it’s like making your way through a pitch black room littered with Legos. Besides, we are all fallible human beings. What I cannot excuse, however, is a god who abandons his children.

A year ago I sat down with an LDS coworker who told me he couldn’t even visit a church that taught that God sends people to hell forever. This was exactly the sentiment I had felt as a Mormon, and it’s probably the way most Latter-day Saints see it too. A God who thrusts people to eternal hell just doesn’t seem merciful. I’ll be the first to admit that hell is a harsh punishment in Protestant Christianity, but it’s even harsher in Mormonism, where God sends his own children there.

According to Mormonism, every person on the face of the planet is literally the offspring of God. This of course, stands in opposition to orthodox Christianity where only saved believers are His children. God is believed to be omniscient and omnipotent; a being who loves everyone perfectly. Yet despite this, in Mormonism, only a small percentage of God’s children will have the chance to live with him in eternity.

Mormons do try to soften the blow of this by espousing a belief in three levels of heaven. Even though Heavenly Father only resides in the highest kingdom, and only the most righteous people will go there, they believe virtually all mankind will go to at least some degree of heaven. The lowest level, the Telestial world, is thought to be so beautiful that if we could see it, we would kill ourselves to get there. In the LDS mindset, this is far more merciful than being sent to a place of fire and torment.

But is it? Elder Holland, an apostle of the LDS church, once said, “I wouldn’t know how to speak of heaven without my wife and my children. It would not be heaven for me” (Temple Open House video – click here to view). This is exactly how Christians view any place devoid of God the Father, it would not be heaven for us. Well guess what folks, in Mormonism eternal families and fellowship with Heavenly Father are both restricted to the Celestial Kingdom alone. So ask yourselves, is a beautiful world where the Father does not come, really heaven? And is it really less painful than a hell made of fire and brimstone?

Whether literal or metaphorical, The Book of Mormon describes the suffering God’s children will endure after the final judgment in Alma 12:16-18.

And now behold, I say unto you then cometh a death, even a second death, which is a spiritual death; then is a time that whosoever dieth in his sins, as to a temporal death, shall also die a spiritual death; yea, he shall die as to things pertaining to righteousness.

Then is the time when their torments shall be as a lake of fire and brimstone, whose flame ascendeth up forever and ever; and then is the time that they shall be chained down to an everlasting destruction, according to the power and captivity of Satan, he having subjected them to his will.

Then, I say unto you, they shall be as though there had been no redemption made; for they cannot be redeemed according to God’s justice; and they cannot die, seeing there is no more corruption.

Latter-day Saints may argue that this is a temporary “everlasting destruction” or it’s only talking about the few who go to Outer Darkness with Satan and his angels, but either way it’s a moot point. In Mormonism these are God’s children who are being abandoned, and left chained by the power of the devil.

Mormons also claim that everyone essentially goes to the degree of heaven they are most comfortable in, and it’s not really God abandoning us, it’s us abandoning him. What concerns me about this approach, is I believe there are people who honestly want God, but cannot abandon their sins, despite all desires to the contrary. These will have the doors to the Celestial Kingdom shut in their face and God will say, “I’m sorry, but you chose this.”

At least the Mormon god is consistent. Assuming that humanity does comprise God’s children, Jesus’ words to the Pharisees are incredibly harsh in John 8:42 where he denounces their heritage, “If God were your Father, you would love me…” In verse 44 he goes on to say their father is none other than the devil. Mormon doctrine also teaches that the Holy Ghost abandons us when we break the commandments, leaving us in the very teeth of sin when we need him the most. I would expect this kind of behavior from a teenage girl. I would not expect it from the highest being in the universe, the Alpha and the Omega.

In 1 John 4:8 we learn that God is love. I’m not talking about the “love” Mormons attribute to him: where he lovingly abandons his children to hell and puts the blame on their shoulders, I’m talking about a noble kind of love. This love is described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV).

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It is not wrong for Latter-day Saints to struggle with the justice of God and the eternal nature of hell. It is, however, hypocritical to cast stones at Christianity while excusing the problems in their own theology. As for me, I cannot even visit a church that teaches God sends his own children to hell.

A satirical take on a popular Neo-Orthodox Mormon bestseller.



  1. Love this article and your writing style. Looking forward to reading more!


  2. Travis Anderson says:

    Flournoy, once again, demonstrates The same short-sightedness found in all his writings.

    In “Mormonism” free-will or moral agency actually exists. Those few of God’s children who find themselves unable to dwell eternally with God are choosing not to dwell eternally with God. They aren’t being abandoned.


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    • Travis, if my article is short sighted, why are you saying exactly what I said the LDS would say?

      The truth is the LDS god demands perfection from his children for them to dwell in his presence in the Celestial Kingdom. That is not a choice we are capable of making- therefore it is not accurate to say we are choosing to be separate from him because it is the only choice we can make.


  3. My name is Jonathan Nebeker and my email is Mormons also claim that everyone essentially goes to the degree of heaven they are most comfortable in, and it’s not really God abandoning us, it’s us abandoning him. What concerns me about this approach, is I believe there are people who honestly want God, but cannot abandon their sins, despite all desires to the contrary. These will have the doors to the Celestial Kingdom shut in their face and God will say, “I’m sorry, but you chose this.” Well my God says this, if you have the desire but can’t break the habit, you still go where you are most comfortable with going and you won’t have heaven shut in your face. No, you go where you want and you can choose on judgement day where you go.

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    • Mr. Nebeker, regardless everything that you’ve said, the fact remains that the Christian God doesn’t send His children to hell as the Mormon god does. That was the main point of Mr. Flournoy’s article.

      In mainstream Christian, we are the ADOPTED children of God through Christ’s atonement, not His literal progeny. In short, in mainstream Christianity God is sending His rebellious creatures, not His children, adopted or otherwise, to hell. Please consider this Biblical passage in that light:

      Romans 8 (KJV, bolding added for emphasis)
      15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

      16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

      17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

      18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

      19 For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.

      20 For the creature was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who hath subjected the same in hope,

      21 Because the creature itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God.

      As for the Mormon that everyone chooses to go where they feel most comfortable. Can you explain to us why anyone would choose anything less than the Celestial Kingdom?

      Further, can you explain to us how and why human will can override God’s sovereignty? And if it can, is man not, in fact, more powerful than God is? If so, how and why would God still be God, given all this?



  4. bobbyforehandgmailcom says:

    So guys Mike is definitely not trying to attack, or belittle anybody. This isn’t about agendas or religion or what church you attend. This is about the ultimate goal of being with Lord. I mean it’s simple what he’s explaining to you guys is called agape love. John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he sent his only begotten son. That whomever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life. So we’re talking love above any other. So really truth be told, and Mike defense. This is crazy that he’s being attacked. When really he’s really just trying to love you guys. And show you that there’s other information out there that you need to consider. This man is ultimately trying to love you. He had put his heart out there and nothing more. Is merely providing information to anyone willing to listen he who has an ear let him hear. He is definitely not trying to attack, or destroy anybody’s belief, or agenda. And yes he did write a book. And at the time he truly believed that in his heart that was biblical truth. Mike has been diligently doing tremendous amounts of research to come to his own new conclusion. And is this man not entitled to his own opinion. What gives us the right to judge this man’s opinion. In his heart he has felt that he has not had the truth. And is now found the truth and is trying to share it with others. To all of y’all who have considered this hypocritical. Are we not entitled to change our opinion. At any given time it is free will to make a decision to change. And as far as the belief systems go it’s pretty black and white you don’t get it an in between. It’s human nature for us to try to find the easiest way out of anything. And the God’s honest truth is he’s made it real simple it’s free will. God is not forcing you to do anything he says build your Treasures in Heaven not on Earth. To be worried about all the stuff down here fighting about what religion. What church you attend, and how you worship really is not the problem. It’s the fact that everybody’s so caught up in that. To all that are being affected by this don’t realizing really that Satan is winning. By keeping everybody busy with foolish things that really don’t matter at the end of the day. they’re not even worshiping the Lord. And it really is disappointing to him to see us all like this. We are to take from each other, and make ourselves complete. That doesn’t mean anyone religion is right or wrong. That means where to take all this information compiled it. And then make the best decisions we could possibly make. We are to help each other get to Jesus together. At the end to disciple one another to the best of our abilities with the information we are given. So truthfully to be attacking this man for really putting his heart out there for y’all is just insane to say the least. But God bless you Mike Flournoy great job on your article. I really mean it super Kudos and God bless you brother.


  5. jim- says:

    If there was a god I don’t believe he would subject our eternal existence on ambiguous interpretation of an obscurely translated English version of scripture. I don’t believe it. I can’t force myself to believe it. I could fake it like so many others because they feel the need to because if various pressures in society and skilled indoctrination. Am I going to hell? That 6th century invention to scare us into believing. I think not


  6. I really really appreciate how honest you are in your posts. God is perfectly just, yes, but He is paradoxically also perfectly merciful. He provides opportunities for everyone to reach the Celestial kingdom, even in the post-mortal life, they merely have to choose it.


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